Note to Self: Remember your child’s heart is tender. Guard it, protect it, do your very best not to hurt it.
Sometimes we forget that kids are not little adults. They don’t necessarily get our jokes or our sarcasm. They may be more easily hurt or embarrassed than we realize. One evening at dinner, I was telling my husband about an incident earlier that day in which my three year old had struggled with her behavior. When I was about half-way through my story, I noticed a shameful and embarrassed look on her face…the kind of look that makes me cry when I think of it. I realized right then, this was not a good time to tell Daddy. She and I had already talked about her behavior earlier and she had already apologized. There was no reason for me to make her relive her mistake over the dinner table, especially when she was seeing Daddy for the first time that day. I imagined myself being put in that same situation and how embarrassed I would have been. I realized I didn’t want to do that to her. True, there are times that it is necessary for both Daddy and I to sit down with her and discuss an inappropriate behavior, but I want to be sensitive to the time and place in which I decide to do so. Her heart is so precious to me and I want to do everything I can to guard it!